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Posted on 26 October, 2015 at 23:45

Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. When we look at this scripture we must realize that our words hold great power. Just think about it, your words can cause someone to come out of darkness and be whole. However, that same tongue can release words that can send someone into deep depression and literally kill them. Yep, that's right you heard me clear, your words can literally kill someone. You can strip someone of their dignity, self- worth and well- being simply by using your words.


I experienced both sides of the spectrum recently and I believe God revealed this to me to share. I was on my way home and a young woman walked up to me and said " don't you live here?" and I said yes, she then said " I thought that was you, you lost weight" I responded yes I did lose weight. (I did in fact loseweight because I began to struggle with high blood pressure. It's hereditary on both my mother’s and father’s family; so when I started to struggle with it I said God we are going to break this generational curse right now. Come on somebody, I said devil I will not suffer what my parents and grandparents struggled with I'm Breaking It Right Now! And to God be the glory I'm free no medication needed. I'm putting in a praise right here!) She then said " you look so good, don't get me wrong you always looked good, but you look amazing you go girl, you rock". Her words made me feel good and put a smile on my face; because of her words my do went even smother. This young girl went out of her way just to say something nice to me, when she didn't have to, and for that I was = greatful


The other side of the spectrum; I was in church talking to one of my sisters in the Lord, and a church mother walked up to me. She says "you look so good you lost weight?" and I said thank you yes I did lose weight. She then continued to compliment me and the sister I was speaking to says yes I lost weight too. The church mother looked at her as to say where, and said you should keep on working.

(before I go any further I just want to say that I love the church mothers. I spend a lot of time with them because they have knowledge and wisdom that I need. As I have written in my book (Women On The Wall) sometimes, some not all church mothers say inappropriate things that hurt and offended people) The mother then began to point out the areas that the sister needed to lose. The sister responded to the church mother and says "well I like my hips and chest, all I want to lose is more of my stomach"; the Mother responded well if that's all you think you need to loose, to each its own. Now right there I had to interject because it was clear that the sister was offended by the mother’s comment. I changed the conversation by asking the mother how she was doing, and she then focused on the issues she was dealing with.


The whole demeanor of this sister had completely change, she went from smiling and laughing to quiet and gloomy. After the Mother walked away I began to rebuild this sister, because the mother had clearly torn her down. I refused to leave a person in a state of brokenness in my presence ( that's part of the call on my life). I encourage the sister and told her that she should not be concerned about people's opinion of her, and that only Gods opinion should count. I talked to her about her weight lost goals and ways she could achieve them. Death was spoken but I thank a God that life overrides it. I say that because before I left the sister she was back to her joyful self.


Listen, many people have taken their life because someone said something mean to them. Souls are lost because of people's carelessness and violent use of their tongues daily. We must become more conscious of the things that we allow to flow out of our mouth. Why? Because God is holding us accountable for every injury or death that we are responsible for. Before you speak ask yourself is what I'm about to say is going to cause injury or death to someone. The Bible says to be slow to speak, so please take a minute and think about it.


People of God listen, we are supposed to lift up one another not tear anyone down. If there is something that needs (I stress the word Need) to be said. We should follow the instruction of Christ Jesus and do it in love and kindness, Jesus said with love and kindness have a drawn you. My mother would tell us this all the time " if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say nothing at all. Don't be murderer with your words, but speak life and God will reward you!


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